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Roxie's avatar

I love this and find it so true. Sometimes I’ve felt selfish taking care of me. But only I know what I want/need and I get frustrated when people around me don’t take care of themselves. This doesn’t mean I don’t care, or take care of people around me. It means I’m grounded and centered and cared for so I have more ability to give.

When I was younger, I always ended up leaving relationships because I lost myself. Then I spent time learning to care for me, and having been able to balance myself and a partner/wife for many years now. I’ve found this balancing place changes as I raised our son, and now as we are retired I have more time to devote to reaching for what new dreams I have available to me. Thank you for your writing which reminds me to reach for the fullest me.

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Roxi Zilmer's avatar

mike drop! and you are one of my favorite people ~ always and forever!

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April White Books's avatar

Right back atcha!

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Laura Monge's avatar

This is on point for me at a time of transition into my retirement life. What will I be next after much of my identity was being a teacher for 37 years? Will I stay in motion? I’m looking forward to reading all day not moving actually. At some point I’ll need to get up. I hope to be someone’s important person. Thanks for your thoughts written above that made me think this morning!

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April White Books's avatar

Laura, just by being who you are and doing what you do, you are so many people's important person. Do whatever you do next for you, and it'll always matter.

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Krista Dyreson's avatar

I remain at the center of my own life, contributing to things that matter to me. I don’t wonder if I matter - I just do what I do, and that matters.

LOVED this, April! 💗

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April White Books's avatar

Thank you Krista! Happy Sunday to you and your family.

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